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What was remarkable about her mother, said Judith Flanders, the second of Flanders’s four children, “was that she had this life in two acts.”
Born in London, England, she grew up in a middle-class family. She was expected to marry, have children, do community work. “She didn’t think about stepping off the path set for families like her.”
She was married at 18 and had four children by age 27. Then when Flanders was 53, her husband, Eric, died of lung cancer. The family knew nothing of palliative care.
“In 1991, when he died, she thought no one should have to go through what we did — not knowing how to find care, not knowing what to do. She decided to do something about it,” Judith said.